Women have been complaining about the sexual double standard for god knows how long? And rightfully so. I don't know where it came from (probably men), how it started and why it's prevailed for all these years. But it sure as hell isn't fair.
Women who have sex are sluts, and women who don't are prudes. Having verses not having sex can mean a lot of things. Waiting to have sex until you're in a relationship can go either way. You're a slut because you didn't wait until marriage, or you're a prude because you demanded a commitment before you gave it up. It can vary based on the situation, who's having the conversation, and which way the wind is blowing.
But this double-edged sword has a positive twist. If you can't win either way, then why bother to play at all? In it's own way the double standard is revealing a liberating truth--that there's no right or normal way to have sex.
If the double standard didn't exist, and all women were valued more one way or the other, we would all try to emulate that, which would be a bad thing because the right answer to waiting or not, or for how long, is different for everybody.
I know virgins who I consider slutty and women who can't count their encounters on both hands (sometimes toes) completely well-adjusted.
If you can't win, make up your own rules and play your own game.
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